Showing posts with label impossible. Show all posts
Showing posts with label impossible. Show all posts

Monday, March 7, 2011

I could never do that!

-By Jaime Willis

"Impossible is Nothing."
- Adidas

Two performers in Cirque Du Soleil's Ovo
James Stigler wanted to understand why Asian students perform so much better than American students in mathematics. In his book, Learning Gap, Stigler mentions the impact of variables such as instructional time (both per day and length of the school year) and curriculum, but he finds that attitude is a large factor in Asian students' success.

Asians, it seems, have placed a high cultural emphasis on hard work as the path to achievement. So when an Asian student tackles a math problem beyond their level of comprehension, they work and work and work at it until they understand the problem and can solve it. They believe that the only thing that stands in the way of their success is just doing the work.

Americans, on the other hand, have placed a high cultural emphasis on skill and talent. So when an American student tackles a math problem beyond their level of comprehension, they believe that they don't "have what it takes" to do that type of math. In fact, an American student will work at the problem no more than 5 minutes on average before giving up, while the Asian student will work for 30 minutes or longer on the same problem.

Esperanza Spalding - 2011 Grammy Winner
Two University of Illinois psychologists, Carol Diener and Carol Dweck, did a similar study in 1978. They found that children who attributed their failure to complete a task to 'lack of ability' did significantly worse at achieving tasks of all difficulty levels than children who attributed their failure to 'lack of effort.'
Even further, the study showed that when they taught children to disassociate failure with lack of ability/talent, the students were able to improve their success rate.

Malcolm Gladwell had a similar conclusion in his book Outliers. He discovered that innate talent and ability was something of a misnomer. In one study, which we've mentioned before in our workshops, Gladwell found that the best violinists in the world were not the ones with the most innate ability, but simply the ones with the most practice time in.

Aron Ralston, survivor
For every single amazing achievement you can think of, there is someone out there who was able to make that happen despite their lack of innate talent or ability. I think of Eddie Izzard, an actor and comedian, who was able to run 43 marathons in a row (one per day) with very little advanced training. I think of Carl Brashear, who became a Master Diver in the Navy as an amputee after twenty-two YEARS of working toward his goal.

So when someone tells me, "I could never do that," I want to scream. SCREAM. "Yes, you can!" The only thing that is truly stopping you is YOU. The path to your "impossible" achievement may take time. And encouragement. And heartbreak. But you CAN achieve anything you set your mind to.





Believe it. Achieve it.



Monday, December 13, 2010

Impossible is Nothing

- by Jaime Willis

“Listen to the Mustn’ts, child, listen to the Don’ts.
Listen to the Shouldn’ts, the Impossibles, the Won’ts.
Listen to the Never Haves, then listen close to me.
Anything can happen, child, Anything can be.”
-Shel Silverstein



We spend an awful lot of time listening to the Mustn'ts and the Don'ts, the Shouldn'ts and the Impossibles. Whether they come from others or from a scared voice inside ourselves, the only Can't you should listen to is the voice that says, "You Can't Stop! You Can't Fail!"

A very talented friend of mine sold a screenplay a few years ago. Not well-versed in the ways of Hollywood, I didn't realize that selling your screenplay, which is a huge accomplishment in and of itself, is actually just one small step on the path to getting your movie made. Three years, several options, two directors, and a couple of agents later, the movie still hasn't been made.

In an emotional discussion with his screenwriting partner, my friend wondered why they had been waiting so long for "someone to give them permission to make their movie." They simply needed to raise $50,000 - $150,000 to fund an independent production of the movie themselves.

His colleague balked. Oh, we "just" need raise $150,000, he said. Ha! If that were so easy, everyone would be making a movie. My friend hung up with his partner, but not before asking him again to rethink his Mustn'ts and Impossibles.

A half hour later, his colleague called my friend back. Sheepishly, quietly, the colleague began talking. Um, he said, we've got the funding.

"What?!?" My friend shouted.

Yea, we have $150,000. We're funded.

The guy who just 30 minutes before couldn't believe that fundraising any amount of money for their movie was possible had gotten enough of a spark, a glimmer, of hope he called a friend of his to talk through the idea. His friend was so enthusiastic, he offered to foot the bill himself. A day later, a family member matched the contribution, so their total production budget is now $300,000.

The guys are now in the enviable position of deciding whether to shoot their movie, a movie that has been sitting on a shelf for THREE years, on an independent film budget or use their existing budget as seed funding to raise the $1.5 million needed for a full-size movie shoot.

And it all began with squashing the Mustn'ts. Squashing the Impossibles. Squashing the Shouldn'ts, Won'ts and Don'ts.

Imagine how much you can get accomplished this week if you give up the your Mustn'ts and even just pretend your goals are possible!

As Jillian Michaels says, "Unless you puke, faint, or die, keep going!"

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